I finally get to show this off. I’m so proud to be among this lineup of fabulous authors! Coming in May. Can’t wait!
It’s January 7th already!
It seems like I haven’t been out on the interwebs forever. Part of that is because my family has been home for two weeks, and part is because we not only have holidays here, we have three birthdays right after Christmas. Busy, busy!
But now that everyone’s back to work, I have breathing room to think about what’s going on in my life.
I hate making New Year’s resolutions. I never keep them. I don’t expect that after the first of a new year I’ll suddenly become a gym-goer, or a radically clean homemaker. It’s way too much pressure.
What I can do is continue making the small changes I started a few years ago. Cook more healthy food. Tidy things on a schedule, move a little more each day than I really want to. Look forward, not back.
I’m not gonna lie–I lost ground at the end of the year with regard to some of my goals. I held on to healthy eating by my toenails, and my 80-20 rule (eighty% of what I eat is supposed to be nutritious) got flipped around to maybe 20% nutritious and 80% Lord Have Mercy. And that’s on a good day. I really do need to get more exercise. I have yet to put away the holiday decorations. But I don’t see any of that as a drastic change. It’s all more of a course correction.
I don’t see my life in terms of what I’m not doing right. I’m all about enjoying the people and things I love. My life is about loving a journey that isn’t always going to go in a straight line.
Every day, I learn new things. Thanks to a Christmas gift from my family, I’ve become a proficient sous vide chef, so we’ve been enjoying a LOT of perfectly cooked fish. I have an Insta-pot, so we can make healthy meals in a flash. I have a local gym membership, and I might decide to actually go. Or I might lie in bed for a whole day reading, and I’ll feel good about that too.
What I believe is every day is a wonderful opportunity for a fresh start. Every day can be the beginning of a brand new journey. All it takes is one step.
Where do you want to go today?
Today I’m a guest over at author’s Lex Valentine’s 25 Days of Christmas Giveaway! To enter and learn more about Lex’s 8th Annual Book Giveaway click here!
As fall approaches in what could arguably be called A Most Difficult Year, I am downsizing to a new house. This is bittersweet for me because I love my old house so much. It’s the house where my kids grew up, the house that has their little handprints in the cement. There’s no real reason for me to feel so sentimental about a place, though, because I’ve lived in many houses, and if you’re lucky enough to be able to take the people you love with you, it’s all good.
My oldest son and daughter have graduated from college. Alexander lives in Escondido now–he’s healthy, happy, in a stable, long-term relationship, and has a great job. My daughter has a great job, but she prefers to live at home because she’s not stupid and rentals are ASTRONOMICAL here.
The twins are still in school so they too, still live at home. Maxfield wants to be an actuary, and Zachary is still undecided what he wants to do, but goes to school and works very hard. The important things will travel with us. Memories. Love. Laughter. Pictures. Films and DVDs of them on Christmas mornings and in talent shows.
No, it’s more that there’s another chapter of my life looming, and I’m not entirely sanguine about it–getting OLD. I feel old. Sometimes, I find myself acting old. I haven’t yet uttered the words, “‘Get off my lawn,” but I’ve been close once or twice.
To that end, I have decided to be like one of those countries in rampant inflation that simply lop off a zero from their money system. I plan to add a decade to my imaginary life span. I am downsizing in every way possible. Eating healthy. Exercising regularly. I plan to live simply, and find a way to bring health and happiness to others too, because that’s what I’ll be missing most from that middle part of my life–the chance to be the nurturer.
To be clear, my kids are in no position yet to have children, so my grandmother days are still ahead. I guess I’ll just have to look elsewhere to do good.
In the meantime:
Hawai’i Five Uh-oh will be out in November 13, 2018
Built To Love will be out in December 18, 2018
House on Fire should be ready by January 15, 2019
And stay tuned for Three Vlog Night, the third installation in the loosely related but in now way serial Plummet Series, and Hellion in the Making, part of the My Cowboy series, coming soon!
Winners of the “Ides of March” Drawing!
Congrats to Pam, Annie, and Mary, to whom I just sent copies of Marie Kondo’s “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying up.”
It has become my passion to create a clutter-free organized, and dare I say it? Pleasant environment. I want to love where I work and cook and sleep.
We’re nowhere near that ideal yet, and, I doubt it will last, but in the meantime…
WIN THE DAY!
My bio is no longer true.
I did NOT give up housekeeping entirely to begin my writing career. It turns out–I only put it off.
My entire plan was: Once I become a bestselling author, I will have someone else clean my house.
And yay, right? I’ve sold some books. But it turns out that kids need dentistry and shoes and eventually college and I still don’t have a housekeeper.
Therefore I have been undertaking The Great Clean since the middle of last year. And no, I am not done. But I will tell you that I have decluttered the garage, the office, the kitchen, the laundry room, and my bedroom. The boys did theirs too, and I’m quite proud of them. They each have a system. We’re still a hot mess, but getting there.
I have been cleaning by location, which–DOESN’T WORK for a lot of reasons. Mostly because I have this terrible tendency to think, well, I’ll put that there, FOR NOW.
Yeah. So, then I got the book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo, and drumroll please…
It changed my life.
Because it’s not about finding places for all the stuff you have; it’s about deciding what sparks joy and letting the rest go. It’s about knowing what’s going to be in a drawer before you open it, knowing the exact whereabouts of the thing you need and finding it and using it and thanking it and putting it back–which is so smugly woo-woo I think I threw up in my mouth a little just saying it, and yet…
Le sigh. Sometimes smugly woo-woo things work, even if you despise their very idea.
My gift to you? I will be giving away 3 copies of this book on the Ides of March. (That’s Thursday, March 15, 2018)
Just fill out the form below, and I will receive an email to let me know you want to enter the contest. You must be able to receive the book electronically from Amazon, I guess, I should mention that. I tested it, and I made it work. No newsletter signups will be involved. I hope this works everywhere you see this blog post, but if not, I won’t be offended if you sign up a couple times to make sure. It will definitely work from my website.
I’m doing this because I want you to feel the way I feel when I see the room I’m sitting in now, clothes neatly hung in the closet, floors clean, everything in it sparking joy like a badass motherf*cking, joy-sparking…joy sparker. I must pause and enjoy…
Be well, and spring forward into the best year possible. I am cheering you on!